To be blunt, it is. That wouldn't be a problem anywhere else - trust like that can certainly be quite powerful! But unfortunately, here in this situation, the cautious and paranoid benefit more than those willing to trust.
I understand that right now you want to believe that there are people here who won't betray you, who won't make you regret trusting them. The fact that you even want to trust in the first place is... a good thing, I'd say.
[It means you want to keep connecting with people. It means you still want to reach out, even if it means you'll get hurt again.]
But that means you must be even more careful. You'll always have blind spots, and you won't always be able to cover for them. When it comes down to it, you'll have to ask yourself what's more important: trusting them regardless, even though you may get hurt again... or always keeping the tiniest bit of doubt, no matter how genuine they seem.
[That's oversimplifying it quite a bit, but it gets the point across well enough for this.]
I do apologize for how harsh my wording is, but it isn't an easy topic. Rebuilding trust once it's been betrayed is not an easy thing to do. Some people never really recover from it.
[...Not that he'd know anything about that, of course.]
[ This is actually a really good way of putting it. Yeager isn't telling him not to trust anyone at all, especially the people he has in mind... But he has a good point about keeping the tiniest bit of doubt.
It feels wrong to do that, in Tenn's mind, but...he remembers in Week 1, when the only person he trusted wholeheartedly was Riku. He doesn't think that would ever change, if Riku were still alive...but it was probably a wiser decision.
The problem is that Tenn Kujo gets attached. That has always been both a strength and his greatest weakness. And here, where everyone is far more experienced in him with this kind of thing -- betrayal, violence, mortality -- he's at a great disadvantage.
A shame that it took him not one, not two, but three trials to learn this. ]
I'll be honest with you and tell you that there's no way I can stop trusting certain people whatsoever. But that bit of doubt -- that's good advice. It's doable.
Understood. In those cases, I wish you the best of luck.
[Maybe they really won't betray Tenn and things will work out fine. Or maybe they will, and Tenn will have to pick himself up yet again and work out how to proceed. It'll get easier each time, but that won't make it any better.]
I've learned a thing or two about trusting - or not trusting - people over the years. I'm pleased I could pass some of that on.
Thank you. I'll be more cautious, moving forward. I would rather not be put in this position time and time again anymore.
[ He really got played one too many times. It's kind of infuriating, but also really saddening. He's...glad he talked to Yeager, even if it was kind of sobering.
Of course. These situations are never easy. I hope things will go well for you and that your trust won't be betrayed again... but if it is, I'm sure you'll be able to handle it.
[And that's simply that, as far as he's concerned.]
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To be blunt, it is. That wouldn't be a problem anywhere else - trust like that can certainly be quite powerful! But unfortunately, here in this situation, the cautious and paranoid benefit more than those willing to trust.
I understand that right now you want to believe that there are people here who won't betray you, who won't make you regret trusting them. The fact that you even want to trust in the first place is... a good thing, I'd say.
[It means you want to keep connecting with people. It means you still want to reach out, even if it means you'll get hurt again.]
But that means you must be even more careful. You'll always have blind spots, and you won't always be able to cover for them. When it comes down to it, you'll have to ask yourself what's more important: trusting them regardless, even though you may get hurt again... or always keeping the tiniest bit of doubt, no matter how genuine they seem.
[That's oversimplifying it quite a bit, but it gets the point across well enough for this.]
I do apologize for how harsh my wording is, but it isn't an easy topic. Rebuilding trust once it's been betrayed is not an easy thing to do. Some people never really recover from it.
[...Not that he'd know anything about that, of course.]
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It feels wrong to do that, in Tenn's mind, but...he remembers in Week 1, when the only person he trusted wholeheartedly was Riku. He doesn't think that would ever change, if Riku were still alive...but it was probably a wiser decision.
The problem is that Tenn Kujo gets attached. That has always been both a strength and his greatest weakness. And here, where everyone is far more experienced in him with this kind of thing -- betrayal, violence, mortality -- he's at a great disadvantage.
A shame that it took him not one, not two, but three trials to learn this. ]
I'll be honest with you and tell you that there's no way I can stop trusting certain people whatsoever. But that bit of doubt -- that's good advice. It's doable.
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[Maybe they really won't betray Tenn and things will work out fine. Or maybe they will, and Tenn will have to pick himself up yet again and work out how to proceed. It'll get easier each time, but that won't make it any better.]
I've learned a thing or two about trusting - or not trusting - people over the years. I'm pleased I could pass some of that on.
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[ He really got played one too many times. It's kind of infuriating, but also really saddening. He's...glad he talked to Yeager, even if it was kind of sobering.
We'll see how long this lasts. ]
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[And that's simply that, as far as he's concerned.]
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[Good luck, Tenn. You might need it.]